Have you become numb to life?

Don't get me wrong. You're a successful professional and a family man, so the intensity of life is in your face every day, but you feel you’ve sacrificed your deepest aspirations to provide for those you love.

Deep down, you know there's more to life than the endless cycle of 'providing and surviving, but it's hard to break free within your responsibility for those you love.

You've come to realize that success is not the same as fulfilment.
Remember the mental movie of your future you created when you were a lot younger?

In the movie from your younger years, I'm guessing you were heroic or an admired artist or athlete. As you transitioned into working life, the hero became a successful, confident, admired man with money, a nice home and car, exotic travels, and the most amazing, vibrant wife and adorable children by your side.

And now you're here, having to reconcile the scenes from the mental movie with reality.

Martin, one of the men I have supported said:

"I’ve just been through another day, and there was nothing in it for me.

I didn’t do something for me today that’s going to help me create that life I really want. Somebody owns me.

Since I’m not building my life - I’m building somebody else's life.

This realization hurts."

Joseph, one of the men I have supported said:

"I have lived half my life, and the fact that I one day will die has dawned on me.

I don't want to feel the way I've done the last 10 years until that day.

And, if I don’t take the chance to live the life I really want, what have I then modeled for my kids?"

Tired of living other people's expectations?

So you've arrived at a point in life where the big questions come. You're tired of basing your decisions on what's best for everybody else, asking yourself, "When is it my turn?"

Trying to fit "life" around all the rest. 
The grind has brought you places. You're comfortable. But there's a nagging feeling that all the material stuff you've collected over the years owns you, and then there's the issue of not having enough time.

Your biggest block of time is work, that block of time five days a week, at least, that modern life evolves around. It has to be done, and then you try to fit “life” around work.

In your off-work life, you do your best to be a good husband, a present parent, and a caring son, keep up with your own friends, and take care of the stuff around the house. Then, before bed, you open your laptop to “just check the emails,” dreaming at night of living a different life.

And then it’s Monday again…

Have you become numb to life?

Don't get me wrong. You're a successful professional and a family man, so the intensity of life is in your face every day, but you feel you’ve sacrificed your deepest aspirations to provide for those you love.

But deep down, you know there's more to life than the endless cycle of 'providing and surviving.'

You've come to realize that success is not the same as fulfillment.
Remember the mental movie of your future you created when you were a lot younger?

In the movie from your younger years, I'm guessing you were heroic or an admired artist or athlete. As you transitioned into working life, the hero became a successful, confident, admired man with money, a nice home and car, exotic travels, and the most amazing, vibrant wife and adorable children by your side.

And now you're here, having to reconcile the scenes from the mental movie with reality.

Martin, one of the men I have supported said:

"I’ve just been through another day, and there was nothing in it for me.

I didn’t do something for me today that’s going to help me create that life I really want. Somebody owns me.

Since I’m not building my life - I’m building somebody else's life.

This realization hurts."

Tired of living other people's expectations?

So you've arrived here. To a point in life where the big questions come. You're tired of basing your decisions on what's best for everybody else, asking yourself: "When is it my turn?"

Trying to fit "life" around all the rest. 
The grind has brought you places. You're comfortable. But there's a nagging feeling that all the material stuff you've collected over the years owns you, and then there's the issue of not having enough time.

Your biggest block of time is work, that block of time five days a week, at least, that modern life evolves around. It’s something that has to be done, and then you try to fit “life” around work.

In the out-of-work life, you do your best to be a good husband, a present parent, and a caring son, keep up with your own friends, take care of the stuff around the house, and then before bed you open your laptop to “just check the emails”, at night dreaming of living a different life.

And then it’s Monday again…

Joseph, one of the men I have supported said:

"I have lived half my life, and the fact that I one day will die has dawned on me.

I don't want to feel the way I've done the last 10 years until that day.

And, if I don’t take the chance to live the life I really want, what have I then modeled for my kids?"

You're not alone.
Most men have lived some version of this.
Some have the courage to say enough is enough and step into life fully.

It's your turn now!

You might not know precisely what you're searching for, but you want peace of mind, harmony in the relationship and clarity on your path forward.

This is the invitation you've been hoping would eventually reach you—to confront and journey through the aspects of life you've been avoiding.

It is a call to reignite your inner fire and craft a life of vibrant health, strong relationships, and a fulfilling forward journey.

Fredrik Lyhagen

It's your turn now!

You might not know precisely what you're searching for, but you want peace of mind, harmony in the relationship and clarity on your path forward.

This is the invitation you've been hoping would eventually reach you—to confront and journey through the aspects of life you've been avoiding.

It is a call to reignite your inner fire and craft a life of vibrant health, strong relationships, and a fulfilling forward journey.

This is for men who experience any of this:

  • You feel emptiness despite the external success, leading to questions about what brings you joy and fulfilment.
  • You feel a lack of deep, meaningful relationships in which you can express vulnerability and be truly seen and heard.
  • You’re missing the space and freedom to explore and express your true self, including your creative and passionate sides.
  • Your struggle to maintain a healthy balance between work, personal life, and self-care leads to unmet needs in relaxation, health, and personal growth.
  • You seek a more profound connection to something greater than yourself through nature, spirituality, and/or community.

You're not alone if you recognise yourself in any of the above. For starters, I ticked all of these boxes many years ago, and many men I meet as a leadership consultant and executive coach do as well.

A vibrant new chapter

A vibrant new chapter

I invite you to a journey to create a vibrant new chapter

  • Get unwavering clarity and unearthing the mission that will guide your next steps with absolute certainty.
  • Build resilience and master the tools to face challenges head-on, emerging stronger with each obstacle.
  • Deepen your spiritual connection to foster inner peace and harmony, paving the way for a life with profound purpose and serenity.

The How

With exclusive one-on-one personalized coaching over 90 days, I will guide you on a transformative journey of reconnecting with your body, freeing your mind from unhelpful patterns, and stepping into your truth so you confidently step into the next chapter of life with presence, purpose, and power.

You can expect to

  • Enhance your physical health and vitality.
  • Move through your inner struggles
  • Rediscover how to express yourself more fully
  • Create deeper relationships
  • Develop the courage to go after what is deeply meaningful to you.

Format

  • 90 days immersive journey that requires you to do your own work for 30-60 minutes a day
  • 10 individual sessions @ 75 min
  • Full access to me between sessions via text or voicemail with a 24-hour response guarantee
  • Free participation in my monthly open presencing sessions with Q&A.

The pillars of our work

BODY: Reconnect with your full experience of life 

  • Ground yourself in presence and power
  • Gain access to your innate wisdom, and stop believing everything you think
  • Gain a deeply rooted confidence from which you're comfortable asserting boundaries

MIND: Create new empowering self-talk

  • Explore your shadows and confront those holding you back
  • Let go of the stories that don't serve you anymore
  • Create new stories that let you open up to life

SPIRIT: Invite you to journey your path

  • Become present in the Here & Now instead of being caught in the past or future.
  • Reveal your purpose and set the path of your mission
  • Reconcile the practicalities of life with spiritual growth

The Work

We'll work through an 8-step process, one step per call, with the last two calls focused on integration and continuing the work independently. Each call follows a similar structure but is adapted to your specific needs and to what's going on in your life at the moment.

My work is primarily informed by:

  • Buddhist psychology and philosophy
  • Depth psychology based on C.G. Jung
  • Consciousness work and adult development theory based on Kegan, Rooke, Wilber
  • Masculine and feminine work based on Moore & Gilette and Deida

To help integrate the cognitive work, I will guide you through meditations, breathwork, and ChiGong as a part of the sessions.

You will receive a development practice at the end of each session. These development practices are tailored to your needs and may include reflective practice, journaling, meditation, experimenting with new behaviors, physical exercise, and more.

I'm available between our sessions to support you with your development practice and/or any situation that arises. Just text me or drop me a voicemail, and I'll get back to you ASAP.

I invite you to a journey to create a vibrant new chapter

  • Get unwavering clarity and unearthing the mission that will guide your next steps with absolute certainty.
  • Build resilience and master the tools to face challenges head-on, emerging stronger with each obstacle.
  • Deepen your spiritual connection to foster inner peace and harmony, paving the way for a life with profound purpose and serenity.

The How

With exclusive one-on-one personalized coaching over 90 days, I will guide you on a transformative journey of reconnecting with your body, freeing your mind from unhelpful patterns, and stepping into your truth so you confidently step into the next chapter of life with presence, purpose, and power.

You can expect to

  • Enhance your physical health and vitality.
  • Move through your inner struggles
  • Rediscover how to express yourself more fully
  • Create deeper relationships
  • Develop the courage to go after what is deeply meaningful to you.

Format

  • 90 days immersive journey that requires you to do your own work for 30-60 min a day
  • 10 individual sessions á 75 min
  • Full access to me between session via text or voicemail with a 24hr response guarantee
  • Free participation on all my open sessions and Q&As.

The pillars of our work

BODY: Reconnect with your full experience of life 

  • Ground yourself in presence and power
  • Gain access to your innate wisdom, and stop believing everything you think
  • Gain a deeply rooted confidence from which you're comfortable asserting boundaries

MIND: Create new empowering self-talk

  • Explore your shadows and confront those holding you back
  • Let go of the stories that don't serve you anymore
  • Create new stories that let you open up to life

SPIRIT: Invite you to journey your path

  • Become present in the Here & Now instead of being caught in the past or future.
  • Reveal your purpose and set the path of your mission
  • Reconcile the practicalities of life with spiritual growth

The Work

We'll work through an 8-step process, one step per call, with the last two calls focused on integration and continuing the work independently.

Each call follows a similar structure but is adapted to your specific needs and to what's going on in your life at the moment.

My work is primarily informed by:

  • Buddhist psychology and philosophy
  • Depth psychology based on C.G. Jung
  • Consciousness work and adult development theory based on Kegan, Rooke, Wilber
  • Masculine and feminine work based on Moore & Gilette and Deida

To help integrate the work, I will guide you through meditations, breathwork, and ChiGong as a part of the sessions.

You will receive a development practice at the end of each session. These development practices are tailored to your needs and may include reflective practice, journaling, meditation, experimenting with new behaviors, physical exercise, and more.

I'm available between our sessions to support you with your development practice and/or any situation that arises. Just text me or drop me a voicemail, and I'll get back to you ASAP.

Faro testimonial
Faro, Logistics Manager

I've come to a deeper level of peace with my journey through life - less chasing and more paying attention to all the good around me.

Working with Fredrik has given me the capability to lead myself better. Specifically, he has helped me to (1) clarify what’s deeply meaningful to me and integrate my personal and professional priorities to live a life of more joy and fulfillment and (2) come to a deeper level of peace with my journey through life - less chasing and more paying attention to all the good around me. These two combined give me much more confidence in all areas of my life. Fredrik's way of navigating life and sharing his experiences comes nothing short of role modeling. I highly recommend Fredrik to any and everyone who is serious in his/her intention to “do something” with their lives: work, family, self… to those who need a nudge towards living more of their potential.

Carlos testimonial
Carlos, Event Manager

I have been able to impact my family and my network with their own life-altering shifts.

It is with a full heart that I recommend Fredrik. He has helped me see things about myself and my views that have revolutionized how I interact with the world. I leave every session with Fredrik motivated and inspired. Through our conversations and Fredrik’s practices, I have been able to impact my family and my network with their own life-altering shifts. It is true to say that working with Fredrik is changing the world. Thank you, Fredrik; I am forever grateful.

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Christian, Management Consultant

His presence, questions, and support helped me find deeper insights about who I am and how I function than I could possibly find by myself.

I met with Fredrik at a point in life where I felt stuck. In hindsight I was only stuck in my own head, and through the combination of open hearted and a sharp minded coaching from Fredrik I managed to find my way out of my stuckness. His presence, questions and support helped me find deeper insights about who I am and how I function than I could possibly find by myself. I highly recommend working with Fredrik if you feel that you are stuck, and have a longing for deeper insights around what is important in life.

Jonas
Jonas, Head of Procurement

His guidance helped me stand firmer in life, making decisions with clarity and conviction.

My time with Fredrik led me to a profound sense of grounding. Through our sessions, I rediscovered my personal mission and carved a path that feels authentic and purposeful. His guidance helped me stand firmer in life, making decisions with clarity and conviction. This program has been instrumental in shaping a more centered and mission-driven existence.

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Fredrik's mindset, insights and his way of looking at things from a different angle really fuelled my development towards becoming a more reflective and conscious leader.

Michael, General Manager

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I feel much more confident, consistent and satisfied in both my personal (repeatedly confirmed by my spouse) and professional life after working with Fredrik.
Frantisek, Sales Director
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Fredrik's ability to cut through the noise and offer insights set this experience apart. Working with him these months has been a journey that transformed my professional and personal life.
Niklas, Head of Quality Control
Faro testimonial
Faro, Logistics Manager

I've come to a deeper level of peace with my journey through life - less chasing and more paying attention to all the good around me.

Working with Fredrik has given me the capability to lead myself better. Specifically, he has helped me to (1) clarify what’s deeply meaningful to me and integrate my personal and professional priorities to live a life of more joy and fulfillment and (2) come to a deeper level of peace with my journey through life - less chasing and more paying attention to all the good around me. These two combined give me much more confidence in all areas of my life. Fredrik's way of navigating life and sharing his experiences comes nothing short of role modeling. I highly recommend Fredrik to any and everyone who is serious in his/her intention to “do something” with their lives: work, family, self… to those who need a nudge towards living more of their potential.


Carlos testimonial
Carlos, Event Manager

I have been able to impact my family and my network with their own life-altering shifts.

It is with a full heart that I recommend Fredrik. He has helped me see things about myself and my views that have revolutionized how I interact with the world. I leave every session with Fredrik motivated and inspired. Through our conversations and Fredrik’s practices, I have been able to impact my family and my network with their own life-altering shifts. It is true to say that working with Fredrik is changing the world. Thank you, Fredrik; I am forever grateful.


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Christian, Management Consultant

His presence, questions, and support helped me find deeper insights about who I am and how I function than I could possibly find by myself.

I met with Fredrik at a point in life where I felt stuck. In hindsight I was only stuck in my own head, and through the combination of open hearted and a sharp minded coaching from Fredrik I managed to find my way out of my stuckness. His presence, questions and support helped me find deeper insights about who I am and how I function than I could possibly find by myself. I highly recommend working with Fredrik if you feel that you are stuck, and have a longing for deeper insights around what is important in life.


Jonas
Jonas, Head of Procurement

His guidance helped me stand firmer in life, making decisions with clarity and conviction.

My time with Fredrik led me to a profound sense of grounding. Through our sessions, I rediscovered my personal mission and carved a path that feels authentic and purposeful. His guidance helped me stand firmer in life, making decisions with clarity and conviction. This program has been instrumental in shaping a more centered and mission-driven existence.

I'm Fredrik.

I support men in midlife in reigniting their inner fire and crafting a life of vibrant health, strong relationships, and a fulfilling forward journey.

My inner journey started with my burnout in 2006. You can read more about this and my background on the About page.
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Embarking on a Quest for Meaning

Embracing Our Inner Longings

In these tumultuous times, many of us find ourselves yearning for a compass to navigate through the storms of uncertainty. The world around us seems to be in constant flux, with challenges like the global health crisis, environmental concerns, and rapid technological advancements urging us to rethink our very existence. Amidst this upheaval, it's not uncommon to feel adrift, grappling with doubts and questioning our life's direction.

For many, this quest for clarity is more than just a search for personal satisfaction; it's a deep dive into discovering what truly makes us tick. It's about peeling back the layers to uncover our genuine passions, those that lie dormant beneath the hustle and bustle of daily life.

Embracing Our Inner Strength

The essence of true strength lies within, untethered to external accolades or validation. Leadership that stems from this inner wellspring often seeks to uplift others, fostering a sense of empowerment. This form of power is gentle yet impactful, steering clear of force or dominance. It's about lifting others up, not asserting superiority.

To tap into this reservoir of strength, we must confront and integrate our shadow selves. This involves reclaiming our projections, navigating conflicts with maturity, and fostering open, honest communication.

Harmony Between Strength and Sensitivity

In our rapidly changing world, the call for a new kind of leadership is louder than ever. This is a summons not just to compete but to contribute to a nurturing and life-affirming future. It's time for a renaissance of the masculine spirit—one that honors both strength and sensitivity.

This journey of integration beckons us to embrace the full spectrum of our being, marrying the dynamic energies of the masculine and feminine within us. As we traverse this path, we unlock the potential to become beacons of creativity, bravery, innovation, empathy, and a profound love for life in harmony with the natural world.

This voyage is not just for the individual but extends to our roles as leaders, partners, and stewards of the earth. It's an invitation to evolve, to become whole, and to inspire those around us by living in true alignment with our deepest values.

The Courage to Embrace Change

Life has a way of throwing curveballs, disrupting the familiar patterns we've come to rely on. Facing these upheavals requires bravery, especially when stepping into the unknown. It's about mustering the strength to make pivotal choices, even when the end result isn't clear. True courage shines through when we lead with honesty and allow ourselves to be vulnerable, both in guiding our own paths and in inspiring those around us.

In these critical moments, staying true to ourselves and maintaining our equilibrium is vital. It's about joining hands to build a future that values togetherness, regeneration, and inclusivity.

Transforming Through Ritual

Our journey towards personal evolution is often hampered by our habits. Despite their stronghold, breaking free from these patterns is essential for growth. We've all been there—setting intentions to change, to push forward with a new venture, only to find ourselves stuck in the same old cycle. This discord between our aspirations and actions is often rooted in what's known as "competing commitments," tied to our deep-seated habits. Surprisingly, a mere 5% of our being is devoted to embracing change, overshadowed by the 95% governed by ingrained behaviors and reactions.

Reconnect to your heart, awaken your purpose, and unleash your power.

Reconnect to your heart, awaken your purpose, and unleash your power.

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